Self-Sabotage

There’s a part of you that wants to grow — to show up, speak up, start, finish, heal. And then there’s another part that holds you back. It talks you out of trying, convinces you you’ll fail, or sabotages your progress the moment things start going well. That second voice isn’t evil — it’s protective. […]

You make a mistake — and instead of learning from it, you spiral. You replay it in your mind, criticize yourself harshly, or withhold rest, kindness, or connection as a form of “discipline.” This is self-punishment — a destructive pattern where you become both the judge and the punished. Self-punishment isn’t always obvious. It can

You miss deadlines even though you care. You downplay your achievements. You procrastinate on tasks you’re fully capable of completing. You overthink simple emails or avoid asking for help. On the surface, it looks like lack of motivation — but beneath it, self-sabotage at work is often rooted in fear, shame, or self-protection. Breaking the

You want to grow. You set the goal. You dream the dream. But just when things start to go well, you hesitate — or back out entirely. Maybe you procrastinate on something important, push away a healthy relationship, or convince yourself you’re not ready. You tell yourself you’re lazy or undisciplined. But the truth is