Table of Contents
Quiz
Books
Blog Posts
- How to Recognize and Address Toxic Behavior in Yourself?
- How to Overcome the Victim Mindset?
- How to Cope with Passive Self-Injury?
- 15 Subtle Ways You May Be Sabotaging Your Relationships
- How to Break the Cycle of Self-Sabotage at Work?
- How to Set Boundaries With Your Sabotaging Self?
- 10 Common Signs You’re Self-Sabotaging Without Realizing It
- How to Break the Cycle of Revenge Bedtime Procrastination?
- Top 12 Examples of Negative Self-Talk
- How to Stop Self Sabotage Before It Starts?
Self Sabotage Journal Prompts
1. What are some common self-sabotaging behaviors or patterns that I engage in?
2. When did I first start noticing these self-sabotaging behaviors or patterns, and how have they affected me throughout my life?
3. What are some of the underlying beliefs or fears that drive my self-sabotage? What would I tell a dear friend who has the same belief?
Common negative beliefs include:
- “I’m not good enough”
- “I don’t deserve happiness/success”
- “I always fail”
- “I’m not attractive/likable”
- “I’m not smart enough”
- “I’m a burden to others”
- “Success is impossible for me”
- “Nobody cares about me”
- “I’m a loser/failure”
- “I’ll never be happy”
4. How do these beliefs or fears hold me back from achieving my goals or living the life I desire?
5. In what ways do I engage in self-sabotage to avoid uncomfortable feelings or situations?
Self-Sabotage Podcasts
- Verywell Mind Podcast — How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself
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Therapist Amy Morin explains several reasons people undermine their own goals and gives practical strategies for recognizing the pattern before repeating it. - Stop Self-Sabotage With Pat Pearson, MSSW
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A podcast hosted by psychotherapist Pat Pearson focused specifically on self-defeating thinking and behavior, self-worth, relationships, and changing repeated patterns.
TED Talks About Self-Sabotage
- How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over — Mel Robbins
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One of the best-known TEDx talks related to self-sabotage. It focuses on getting out of autopilot, taking action despite discomfort, and breaking patterns that keep you inside your comfort zone. - Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator — Tim Urban
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A very accessible explanation of procrastination and the tendency to repeatedly choose immediate distraction over important long-term goals. - Self Sabotage — Stop Getting in Your Own Way — Renee Tiwari
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Directly focused on recognizing self-destructive behavior and becoming more proactive about challenging patterns that work against your own goals. - Why Do We Sabotage Love? — Raquel Peel
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Psychology researcher Raquel Peel discusses research on self-sabotage specifically within romantic relationships and asks viewers to examine their own relationship behaviors. - Press Stop to Press Play: The Self-Sabotage Remedy
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Focuses on self-worth, limiting beliefs, goal setting, and recognizing how internal patterns can interfere with progress. - How to Limit Self-Sabotage — AzReail Essick
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A short TEDx talk centered on recognizing how your own reactions and choices can become barriers and learning to get out of your own way. - Overcoming Your Mind — Delilah Yick
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Discusses self-sabotaging behavior, repetitive behavioral patterns, habits, and changing learned responses.


