Therapist Resources

When you are both a therapist and a client, ending therapy can feel unusually loaded. You are not just stopping with “my therapist.” You are ending with “a colleague in my community,” someone who knows your nervous system from the inside and may bump into you at trainings, referrals, or local listservs. You might feel

Shame is everywhere in therapy, but it often hides.Clients will say “I’m so stupid,” “I should be over this,” “I don’t want to tell you this,” or “I know this is ridiculous” long before they ever say “I feel shame.” If we treat shame as just another “negative emotion,” we miss how it: Talking about

DV Is About Power and Control, Not Just Anger Domestic violence (DV) and intimate partner violence (IPV) are not “anger problems.” Many perpetrators can control their behavior in public, at work, or with strangers. They choose when and where to escalate. That tells you this is not a simple impulse or regulation issue. It is

Terminations are part of the work, yet some endings land heavier than others. Receiving a handwritten letter instead of an email, text, or in-session goodbye can intensify the emotional impact. It can feel abrupt, intimate, confusing, or even heartbreaking. When the relationship was long-term and meaningful, the loss may echo far beyond professional boundaries. This

Suspecting infidelity in couples therapy can create tension and uncertainty for the therapist. You may notice inconsistencies, strong reactions, or avoidance without clear proof. Your job is not to investigate or accuse, but to work with what is showing up in the room and keep the therapy process safe and honest. What to Do As