After a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) episode — whether it involved rage, withdrawal, impulsive behavior, or lashing out — it’s common to feel deep shame. You might worry you’ve ruined everything, that you’re unlovable, or that people will walk away for good. But relationships can survive emotional storms — especially when you repair them with […]
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Self-sabotage is one of the most painful — and confusing — patterns experienced by people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). You may want love but push people away. You may crave success but quit right before things go well. You may feel desperate to be seen — and then hide or destroy the connection when
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Shame is one of the most powerful — and painful — human emotions. It doesn’t just say “You did something wrong.” It says “You are something wrong.” And when that message hits your nervous system, it doesn’t feel like a thought. It feels like reality. That’s what makes shame so tricky. It feels like truth.
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You want connection — the kind that feels deep, honest, and safe. But when someone gets close, you pull back. You smile while hiding the truth. You stay silent when your heart wants to speak. You crave intimacy, yet something in you whispers, “Don’t let them see too much.” That something is often shame. Shame
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When someone you care about is struggling with shame, you might not always know what to say or how to help. Shame isn’t just feeling bad — it’s feeling defective, unworthy, and isolated. It can make even the kindest words feel hard to receive. That’s why supporting someone through shame takes more than encouragement —
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Moving to a new city can feel like starting over—exciting on the outside, but quietly overwhelming on the inside. Without familiar faces or routines, it’s easy to feel disconnected, invisible, or even question the decision to move. But loneliness in a new place is a common and temporary experience. With time and intentional steps, you
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