This post contains some of the best divorced parents quotes.
Divorced Parents Quotes
1. “Adults whose parents divorced when they were kids have told us, without exception, that they did not want to know the intimate details of their parents’ split and that they resented the parents who told them anyway.” – Deesha Philyaw, Michael D. Thomas
2. “As divorced co-parents, the question we get most often after “How do you do it?” is “If you can get along this well—well enough to collaborate on this book—why couldn’t you make your marriage work?” Our answer: the platonic relationship we’ve cultivated since our divorce is possible only because we’ve removed ourselves from the parasitic resentments that ate away at our marriage, from the daily misery and conflict.” – Deesha Philyaw, Michael D. Thomas
3. “Divorced or separated parents inherently know not to fight in front of their children, but how much affection is appropriate? It helps children to know that their parents don’t hate each other after a breakup, but open displays of affection aren’t necessary to demonstrate this.” – Jann Blackstone
4. “First, a divorced parent should never show up at the other parent’s home unannounced. Too many things could be interrupted that may get in the way of future co-parenting, particularly if the parent has already begun to date.” – Jann Blackstone
5. “For their children’s sake as well as their own, divorced and divorcing parents are called upon to be reasonable, considerate, flexible, cooperative, and mature when what they might really want to do is lash out, compete, be defensive, or dole out some payback—anything to make the pain go away or satisfy the anger burning inside them.” – Deesha Philyaw, Michael D. Thomas
6. “Ideally, all divorced parents would continue to have regular contact and involvement with their children. However, if this is not the case for one of the aforementioned reasons, you should strive to increase the quality of what little time you spend with the children.” – Lisa Rene Reynolds M.D.
7. “In most cases, when there is a problem, divorced parents rarely reach out to each other. However, although there has been animosity in the past, they both love their child equally. Both are pained when it’s difficult for their child to assimilate into mainstream education or when the other kids mimic their child’s behavior. Both parents celebrate their child’s successes and are saddened by their child’s challenges. These parents are not alone while raising their son. And in a positive co-parenting relationship, they realize it even more.” – Jann Blackstone
8. “In reality, divorced parents don’t always agree, and when they don’t, most dig in their heels and say, “My house, my rules.” That’s how you end up with problems such as children being grounded from electronics paid for by the other parent.” – Jann Blackstone
9. “It also might help to remind yourself that some degree of parent-child conflict and children’s testing of parents’ limits is normative, especially in divorced families, in which children can play the parents off each other.” – Amy J.L. Baker, Mike Bone, Brian Ludmer
10. “It’s natural that separated and divorced parents will introduce some differences between their homes. At one house, a child may get plenty of sleep, and at the other, he may stay awake half the night. The food may be healthier; the car, safer; and the home condition, better at one place or another. There’s a line, however, between less-than-ideal parenting and abuse or neglect. While that line can be fuzzy at times, it helps to start with some basic definitions.” – Jann Blackstone
11. “Possibly the worst thing a divorced parent can say is something such as “You’re just like your dad (or mom)!” in an angry or disgusted manner.” – Jann Blackstone
12. “Some divorced parents have a secret they would never admit but believe all the same. Information is power, and the parent with the most information about the children has the power and therefore believes oneself to be “the best parent.”” – Jann Blackstone
13. “Some parents are so angry or wounded by the separation/divorce that they find it hard to see outside their own pain and keep focused on the kids.” – Lisa Rene Reynolds M.D.
14. “The term “high-conflict custody dispute” refers to situations in which separated or divorced parents are engaged in an ongoing dispute about parental rights and responsibilities (in essence, parenting time and decision making).” – Amy J.L. Baker, Mike Bone, Brian Ludmer
15. “We believe that more divorced couples can co-parent successfully if they make a firm commitment to really live for their kids—including honoring and encouraging their kids’ relationship with the other parent and seeing that parent as an ally instead of an enemy.” – Deesha Philyaw, Michael D. Thomas