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Lack Of Self Awareness: 5 Signs & 5 Tips On How To Increase Self-Awareness

Lack Of Self Awareness

This post contains top 5 signs of lack of self-awareness and how to increase self-awareness.

What Is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness refers to having a deep understanding of one’s emotions, thoughts, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses, needs, and drives.

Self-awareness is the main component of emotional intelligence.

People with strong self-awareness are honest—with themselves and with others.

They recognize how their internal experiences affect them and other people. Thus a self-aware person can work with a demanding client: he can understand how the client is impacting his mood and is capable of managing his frustration efficiently.

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5 Signs You Lack Self-Awareness

1. You Tend To Overreact To Situations

When we lack self-awareness, we tend to react impulsively and our reactions tend to be out of proportion to the situation at hand.

Often, our reactions are triggered by something else more deeply rooted than the present situation, such as traumatic past events or unaddressed issues.

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2. You Feel Numb

You may feel sense of emptiness or find that you don’t enjoy things anymore that used to bring you pleasure.

This is usually happens when we use distractions or addictions to cope with negative feelings.

Since we can’t selectively numb our emotions, we end up numbing positive ones, too.

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3. You Get Defensive When You Receive Feedback

When we’re not self-aware and honest with ourselves, we tend to reject others who are trying to be honest with us and give us feedback.

This defensiveness may take the form of lashing out, making excuses, changing the subject, shifting the blame, etc.

4. You Self-Sabotage

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” – C.G. Jung

When we attempt to suppress or avoid negative feelings and thoughts, we unconsciously develop self-protection strategies or defense mechanisms that are self-sabotaging.

For example, if an individual believes that they’re “unlovable,” they’ll unknowingly do whatever they can to:

(1) invalidate this belief through self-sabotaging behaviors, such as people-pleasing or,

(2) confirm it by repeatedly selecting incompatible partners, or behaving so erratically that they become unbearable to be with.

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5. You Repeatedly Regret Your Decisions

Self-awareness helps us consider our needs and values when making decisions or setting goals.

This reduces the chances that we may regret our decisions.

Self-awareness also helps us learn from our mistakes, which reduces the chances that we may repeat them in the future.

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What Causes Lack Of Self-Awareness?

1. Denial

Denial shields us from negative emotions. It keeps us blind to the things we don’t feel ready to handle.

A little bit of denial can be beneficial. However, because it’s an unconscious reaction, it has a way of sticking around longer than it needs to, which.

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2. Fear of Emotions

For many people, emotions are overwhelming.

This is especially the case if someone has been through traumatic experiences or is out touch with themselves.

If you tend to avoid, suppress, or numb your emotions, you may worry that your emotions won’t pass or that they’ll intensify.

Although counterintuitive, the only way to reduce the intensity of an emotion is by allowing yourself to feel it and sit with it.

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3. Lack of Tools

Self-awareness is a skill we learn.

We learn to pay attention to our internal experiences and reflect on them.

If growing up, your parents didn’t ask you “How do you feel, right now?” or “What do you need, right now?” you may have never thought about checking in with yourself.

5 Tips On How To Increase Self-Awareness?

#1. Journal

Journaling is a great way to connect with your internal experience on a deeper level.

You may freely write about anything you have on mind or you may also use journaling prompts.

The following journaling prompts can help you:

  • What self-doubts are you experiencing?
  • What brings you calm and comfort most?
  • What do you value most in life?
  • What things have been inspiring you lately?
  • What are some things you like about yourself?
  • What would you do if you were brave enough?
  • What is your biggest regret?

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#2. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness consists of being fully aware of whatever is happening in the present moment.

To practice mindfulness, try the following:

1. Take a few moments to be still and focus on your breath. Sense the air traveling down your lungs. Notice your belly expanding and contracting.

2. Allowing any thought, emotion, or physical sensation to just be and simply redirect your attention back to your breath.

3. You don’t need to judge, analyze, or figure things out. Spend about three minutes simply checking in with yourself.

Mindfulness can also be practiced informally while performing everyday activities, such as washing your hands and using your sense to remain present: feeling the water against your skin, smelling the soap, listening to the sound of running water, etc.

#3. Practice Sitting Down With Your Feelings

Any time you have a strong physical sensation, instead of reacting right away, pause for a moment and ask yourself these questions:

  • What exactly am I feeling in my body?
  • What emotions do I notice?
  • What thoughts am I experiencing?
  • What was said or what happened just before my reaction?
  • What might feel familiar from my past?
  • What do I need right now?
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#4. Do More of The Things You Enjoy

Spend more time perusing your interest and exploring activities you enjoy.

Take a moment to think about something that makes you smile – something you might consider trivial, but you could get lost in it.

It could be watching a film or painting, or something as simple as running a bath.

The more you pay attention to your needs and desires, the more self-aware you become.

List of Pleasant Activities

#5. Seek Professional Help

Connecting with yourself and allowing yourself to experience difficult emotions can be overwhelming, especially if you’ve been through traumatic experiences.

A mental health professional can help you navigate past pain as learn healthy ways of coping.

Psychologist Locator and the National Register are two websites for locating psychologists in the USA.

Online therapy is also an option. It can be much more affordable than in-person therapy, but can be equally effective. (source)

I recommend  Online-Therapy.com for affordable online therapy. 

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By Hadiah

Hadiah is a counselor who is passionate about supporting individuals on their journey towards mental well-being. Hadiah not only writes insightful articles on various mental health topics but also creates engaging and practical mental health worksheets.

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