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Relationship Red Flags Quiz

Relationship Red Flags Quiz

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What Are Red Flags In A Relationship?

Red flags are warning signs that indicate unhealthy or toxic behavior.

Red flags can be signs of aggression, narcissism, manipulation, control, abuse, etc.

These red flags are usually unrecognizable at the beginning of the relationship. But they tend to grow bigger over time and may even lead to abuse.

Relationship Red Flags Quiz

The following questions represent common relationship red flags:


#1. Do they display overly controlling behavior (e.g., trying to control your decisions, activities, beliefs, etc.)?

#2. Do they struggle with alcohol or substance abuse?

#3. Do they display narcissistic behavior (i.e., an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy)?

#4. Do they have anger management issues that make you feel threatened or unsafe, especially during conflict?

#5. Are they love bombing you (i.e., they become very invested early on, constantly calling you, texting you, showering you with affection and grandiose declarations of love, etc.)?

#6. Do they talk poorly about their family, friend, and/or exes?

#7. Do they often scapegoat you (i.e., turn the blame on your for something they did or hold you responsible for the way they reacted to a situation)?

#8. Do they constantly push your physical boundaries (e.g., hugging or kissing you in public when you clearly communicated that you’re not comfortable with public display of affection)?

#9. Do they often criticize you or put you down, even in a teasing way?

#10. Do they make their acceptance or attraction conditional (e.g., “I love you so much more when you…,” or, “If you lose a bit more weight, you’ll be more attractive to me.”)?

#11. Do they display patterns of overactive jealousy, accusations, or paranoia?

#12. Are they usually unable or unwilling to hear your point of view?

#13. Do they often make emotional threats (e.g., threats of leaving or cutting off “privileges”)?


Note: This test is not meant to act as a substitute for proper assessment.


The questions above represent common red flags in a relationship. If you answered yes to most of these questions, then your relationship might be unhealthy or toxic.

Related: Narcissist Red Flags: Top 10 Signs You’re In A Narcissistic Relationship (And What Can You Do About It)

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Never Ignore A Red Flag

If your partner is abusive in any way or may put you in danger, that is your sign to get out.

Pause and assess the situation before deciding to continue investing time in this person.

However, some red flags can “become yellow” if your partner exhibits change. Communication is key here.

Yellow flags are signs that tell you when to be cautious, and give yourself time to further assess your partner before investing more in the relationship.

Related: Yellow Flags In A Relationship

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