Today, you’re going to learn all about yellow flags in a relationship.
What Are Yellow Flags In A Relationship?
Most of us have heard of red flags – those warning signs that signal a relationship is unhealthy or toxic.
However, red flags are like a red light: if you pass it without seeing it, you might be in danger.
This is where yellow flags come.
Yellow flags in a relationship are early, subtle warning signs that could spare you the pain of facing a red flag, such as putting you down or making fun of you.
These yellow flags represent attempts to control or manipulate the other person.
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What Yellow Flags In A Relationship Look Like
The following are some common early warning signs in a relationship.
Most of these yellow flags eventually become red flags.
1. Things Moving Too Fast
Acts (e.g., prematurely giving you a nickname or calling you their girlfriend/boyfriend) of gifts that are disproportionate to the stage of the relationship can be a warning signs that things are moving too quickly.
While such acts of gifts can be flattering, they might be a sign of trying to claim control.
2. Pushing Your Boundaries
Boundaries in a relationship are guidelines that communicates what treatment we’re willing or unwilling to tolerate.
When someone is pushing your boundaries, (e.g., pressuring you into doing things you are not comfortable with) this is a warning sign.
Related: Healthy Boundaries Quiz (+Free Pdf Worksheets)
3. Anger Management Issues
If the person becomes angry too quickly or unreasonably and struggles to contain their anger, this might be a warning sign that the person has anger management issues.
4. Disrespecting You Verbally
Disrespect can be subtle and covert.
They might be continuously harsh towards you, criticizing you.
Disrespect can also manifest as not respecting your views, invalidating your feelings, or not appreciating what you do.
Related: Covert Verbal Abuse: What Is It & How To Recover From Verbal Abuse
Possessiveness includes excessive jealousy or feeling entitled to your time and attention and getting angry when not giving them what they want.
Their moods and reactions may be volatile to the point where you can’t predict how they’re going to respond to anything.
If you start feeling like you’re walking on eggshells, then that’s a red flag.
7. Not Taking Accountability
They may get defensive quickly when confronted, play the victim, or even shift the blame on you.
Related: Relationship Red Flags Quiz
Toxic Partner Worksheets
We often find ourselves in toxic and even abusive relationships because we tend to ignore early, subtle warning signs.
But learning about these yellow flags isn’t enough.
Sometimes we really want the relationship to work or we’re really into this person we choose to believe that they’ll change or that we’ll find ways to make things work.
It’s important to be aware of yellow flags in a relationship, but also be aware of any excuses that may get you stuck in denial.