How To Stop Repeating The Same Mistakes Over And Over?
Whether they were behavioral mistakes such as showing up late for work or cognitive like never planning ahead, we’re all guilty of repeating mistakes every now and then.
And it’s part of the learning process.
Sometimes we don’t learn the first time, but there are a few steps you can take to avoid repeating the same mistakes.
This article contains simple steps to help you stop repeating the same mistakes over and over.
Ready? Let’s get started!
Here are some signs you might be repeating your mistakes:
- You find it hard to give up your bad habits because you keep going back to your old ways.
- When you often find yourself stuck and unable to achieve a goal, you don’t invest much time analyzing why your attempts to reach your goals are unsuccessful.
- You get mad at yourself because you can’t stay on track when you attempt a change.
- It feels like it takes so much effort to change something.
- You’re frustrated by your lack of self-discipline.
Why Do We Repeat The Same Mistakes?
One of the main reasons, why we keep repeating the same mistakes over and over, is denying these mistakes.
From a young age, we, sort of, have built the habit of trying to cover up our missteps so we won’t have to face the consequences.
However, when we deny our mistakes, we’re less likely to examine them and learn the lesson from them, which means we’re likely going to repeat them in the future.
2. Getting too comfortable.
Another reason why people repeat the same mistake is that they get too comfortable. They won’t invest their energy in finding new ways to do things.
A man would keep turning back to alcohol simply because he doesn’t know any better way to cope with stress.
Avoiding such mistakes means making the effort to look for better ways and that can be too uncomfortable.
The Problem With Repeating The Same Mistakes.
Repeating the same mistakes can evoke problems such as:
1- Being to reach your goals. Whether you’re working on overcoming your alcohol addiction or you’re trying to lose weight, if you keep repeating the same mistakes, you’ll find yourself going back to your old ways and unable to achieve your goals.
2- The problem persists. Until you do something differently, you’ll find yourself doing the same mistakes and the problem won’t get solved.
3- You lose confidence in yourself. When you repeat the same mistakes and you find yourself unable to get past a certain obstacle, you start seeing yourself as a failure and you lose confidence in yourself.
How To Avoid Making The Same Mistakes?
#1. Examine your mistakes.
If you want to avoid making the same mistakes, you’ll need to learn the lesson and figure out exactly what needs to be changed.
Set any negative feelings you might have aside and look for the reason why you keep repeating the same mistake, without giving yourself excuses.
You can do by asking yourself the following:
– What went wrong? Examine what thoughts, behaviors and external factors are contributing to the mistake.
Someone might find it difficult not to overspend on their budget because the friends they’re hanging out with are shopping all the time.
– What could I have done better? As you examine the mistake and what lead you to repeat it, look for things you could have done better. If you failed to make a change, consider that maybe you didn’t stick with it long enough to become a habit.
– What can I do differently next time? Identify a clear strategy you can follow to avoid repeating your mistakes.
#2. Create A Plan.
No matter what type of mistakes you want to avoid repeating, the key to success lies in developing a good plan including getting rid of any unhealthy temptations.
Sometimes developing healthier habits requires changing, not only your behavior but also your environment. If you want to quit using drugs, you might find yourself unable to hang around with these friends anymore.
This is why you need to develop a plan you can follow in order to resist repeating the same mistakes.
To create a successful plan of action, follow these steps:
– Replace your old habit. Instead of shopping every time you’re feeling down, you can find alternative strategies to make yourself feel better such as calling a friend, or exercising.
– Be aware of signs you’re going to repeat a mistake. It’s important to be on the lookout for old behavior patterns that may come back. Maybe you’re beginning to skip going gym for a few days.
– Hold yourself accountable. It’s more difficult to hide your mistakes when you’re being held accountable.
A friend or a family member can help you stay on track, or you can simply use a calendar to chart your progress.
#3. Practice Self-Discipline.
Self-discipline is something you develop with practice.
The more you control yourself and resist temptations, the more self-disciplined you become.
Here are some ways to help you achieve that:
– Start tolerating discomfort. It’s easy to give in to your old ways when you’re feeling uncomfortable.
Often, people convince themselves that if they just give in this once, it’ll make things easier.
The truth is, the more you give in, the less able you become to control yourself and vice versa.
– Talk positively to yourself. Instead of putting yourself down by saying things like “I can never do this”, or “this is too hard for me”, try reciting positive affirmations such as “I’m doing a great job working on achieving my goals.
It’ll increase your confidence and help you stay on track.
– Impose restrictions on yourself. Take steps that will make it difficult for you to give in to your old habits.
If you know you’re likely to spend so much time scrolling on social media, try leaving your phone in another room.
– Carry a list of all the reasons why you don’t want to repeat your mistake. Whenever you’re tempted to give in to your old behavior pattern, read this list for yourself.
It can help increase your self-control.
Repeating the same mistake is a sign that you need to find a new way to solve the problem, and it’s all part of the learning process.
Learning from your mistakes is of the greatest key to growth and reach your full potential.
However, learning from your mistakes requires self-awareness.
Did I miss anything?
Now I’d like to hear from you.
Which techniques from today’s post are you going to try first?
Or maybe I didn’t mention one of your favorite techniques.
Either way, let me know by leaving a comment below right now!
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Portions of this article were adapted from the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, © 2013 by Amy Morin. All rights reserved.