This post contains some of the best affirmations for people pleasing that will help you become more assertive and enjoy healthier relationships.
Toxic Beliefs Behind People Pleasing
People pleasers tend to share the following toxic beliefs:
Toxic Belief #1. You Should Always Put Others First
Most people pleasers were taught from a young age that being considerate of others is always more admirable than putting yourself first.
While being considerate of others is indeed an admirable thing, it should never be at your own expense – that will only leave you feeling resentful and burned out.
Toxic Belief #2. You Are Responsible For Others’ Happiness
Most people pleasers were blamed as children for their parents’ sadness or upset. They internalized the massage that what they do and say determines other people’s feelings or determine how much others love them.
While people in a relationship can influence each others, the way each person chooses to interpret their experience can also influence their feelings and is something that they control and are responsible for.
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Toxic Belief #3. Other People’s Opinion Of Me Determines My Worth
People pleasers typically struggle with feelings of low self-esteem and constantly seek external validation.
They often believe that their accomplishment or how much they help determines their worth.
While helping others says a lot about how good you are as a person, you are much more than what other people think of you.
In fact, people’s opinion of you is mostly based on how good your make them feel, rather than how good you are as a person.
Toxic Belief #4. It’s Better To Choose Peace
People pleasers typically avoid confrontation and fear saying no or disagreeing with others.
They may believe that by being passive things will resolve themselves or that people will leave them alone.
However, most people will take your passivity and silence as a sign that you’re okay with the situation. They may, for instance, start asking for more favors.
It’s more honest and less deceiving to stand up for yourself and let other people know that you’re not okay with what’s going on.
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Affirmations For People Pleasing
One of the best ways to change our limiting and toxic beliefs is to replace them with healthier ones.
1. I accept compliments with grace.
2. I acknowledge and honor my limits.
3. I am kind to myself.
4. I am strong, confident, and resilient.
5. I am the master of my destiny.
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6. I appreciate my efforts and successes.
7. I believe in my abilities.
8. I can handle conflict in healthy, assertive ways.
9. I choose myself and my needs.
10. I deserve all good things in life.
11. I deserve all the love and attention.
12. I deserve healthy relationships.
13. I forgive my mistakes and learn from them.
14. I have immense respect for myself.
15. I let go of the urge to judge myself.
16. I love myself for who I am.
17. I only surround myself with people who care about me.
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18. I pay attention to my feelings and honor them.
19. I treat myself with love and respect.
20. I value my boundaries.
21. I work on becoming more assertive every day.
22. I’m allowed to disagree with others.
23. I’m allowed to say No.
24. I’m only responsible for my own feelings.
25. It is okay if other people get angry
26. It is okay to hold onto my values
27. It’s safe for me to set boundaries with others.
28. My boundaries are an act of self-love.
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29. My happiness is in my control.
30. My time and energy are worth protecting.
31. My voice matters. My voice matters the most.
32. Other people’s response to me is THEIR choice.
33. Receiving is just as honorable a giving.
34. Self-care is the best investment.
35. What I do is good enough.