This post contains couples journal prompts and couple journal ideas that will help you increase intimacy and improve your relationship.
Types of Intimacy
Physical intimacy – includes touching, hugging, cuddling, kissing, and sex.
Emotional intimacy – includes sharing your internal world, expressing your emotions, etc.
Intellectual intimacy – includes having meaningful conversations, exchanging ideas, etc.
Spiritual intimacy – includes sharing beliefs or values, engaging in activities related to those shared beliefs, etc.
What is Emotional Intimacy?
Emotional intimacy is more than just being ‘in love’ or having sex.
Emotional intimacy is a feeling of closeness and emotional safety you share with your partner.
These feelings come from feeling seen, heard, and accepted for who you are.
Emotional intimacy is based on healthy communication.
The couples journal prompts below will help you achieve that.
21 Couples Journal Prompts
1. What is on your mind lately?
2. Is there something you are struggling with at the moment?
3. Has there been anything that has been annoying you about us/me lately?
4. Are you happy with the distribution of responsibilities/chores?
5. Do you feel supported in general?
6. When have you felt most loved by me lately?
7. What can I do regularly so you feel loved and cared for?
8. What helps you feel better when you’re having a bad day?
9. What have we done together in the past that you enjoyed and would like us to do more of?
10. What’s your favorite thing about our relationship?
11. Are there any behaviors you would like to improve in yourself for the benefit of the relationship?
12. Are there any problematic patterns in our relationship?
13. What’s something you’d like us to work on or improve?
14. Do we have enough quality time together?
15. What’s our communication like lately? Are there any aspects of our communication that could be improved?
16. Is there anything you miss in our relationship right now?
17. Is there anything I can do to make your life easier?
18. Is there something you feel I’ve been taking for granted lately?
19. Are you satisfied with our sexual relationship?
20. How healthy do you feel our relationship is?
21. Do you feel safe enough to be vulnerable with me?
Small Ways to Deepen Emotional Intimacy
- Tell your partner what you appreciate about them.
- Tell them what you find attractive about them.
- Express to your partner what you need, like, and desire.
- Learn about their likes and dislikes.
- Ask yourself what makes you feel connected to your partner and tell them.
- Take turns planning surprises for each other
- Do things together that you enjoy.
- Have a regular date night
- Have regular relationship check-ins
- Be vulnerable by sharing your internal world with them.
FREE Printable Relationship Worksheets (PDF)
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