This post contains some of the best fights in a relationship quotes.
Fights In A Relationship Quotes
1. “…it’s not just the screaming fights that damage your relationship. It’s the sarcasm, the put-downs, and the name-calling. It’s the body language of hostility, the folded arms and clenched jaw. After each interaction, you feel more alienated. Your anger, hurt, and disappointment grow.” –Matthew McKay
2. “…the culprit is not what you were fighting about but how you were fighting.” – John M. Gottman
3. “After tracking the lives of happily married couples for as long as twenty years, I now know that the key to reviving or divorce-proofing a relationship is not simply how you handle your disagreements but how you engage with each other when you’re not fighting” – John M. Gottman
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4. “After watching countless videotapes of couples fighting, I can guarantee you that most quarrels are really not about whether the toilet lid is up or down or whose turn it is to take out the trash. There are deeper, hidden issues that fuel these superficial conflicts and make them far more intense and hurtful than they would otherwise be.” – John M. Gottman
5. “Arguments are healthy. They clear the air.” – Unknown
6. “Ok! You win the argument, now can we love?” – Unknown
7. “Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.”- Phyllis Diller
8. “It’s amazing how far the arguments can go.”- Patrick Doyle
9. “I’d rather lose an argument to you than lose you to an argument.” – Unknown
10. “A relationship with no arguments is a relationship with a lot of secrets.” – Unknown
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11. “When I fight with you, I’m really fighting for us. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t bother.” – Unknown
12. “Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”- Rumi
13. “Don’t worry when I argue with you, worry when I stop because it means there’s nothing left for us to fight for.” – Unknown
14. “He who establishes his argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak.”- Michel de Montaigne
15. “I can’t promise you a perfect relationship without arguments and differences. But I can promise you as long as you’re trying, I’m staying.” – Unknown
16. “Couples simply have different styles of conflict. Some avoid fights at all costs, some argue a lot, and some are able to talk out their differences and find a compromise without ever raising their voices. No one style is necessarily better than another—as long as the style works for both people” – John M. Gottman
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17. “I’m not suggesting that validation, active listening, and “I statements” are useless. They can be enormously helpful when attempting to resolve conflicts. In fact, I often recommend them to couples in a modified format with specific guidelines, as you’ll see later in the book. But here’s the catch: even if they do make your fights “better” or less frequent, these strategies are not enough to save your marriage.” – John M. Gottman
18. “Only 40 percent of the time do couples divorce because they are having frequent, devastating fights. More often marriages end because, to avoid constant skirmishes, husband and wife distance themselves so much that their friendship and sense of connection are lost.” – John M. Gottman
19. “Taking a time-out is a vital skill for keeping fights from escalating into verbal or physical abuse. It’s perhaps the single most useful strategy for stopping violence and the battering syndrome. Key to the effective use of a time-out is to evoke it before tempers flare out of control, and before the fight reaches a point where each person is focused on hitting back and getting even.” – Matthew McKay
20. “We spend the week catching up, dreaming together, and, yes, sometimes fighting and clearing the air over any issues we had ignored due to busy-ness. It is always romantic, magical, and special.” – John M. Gottman
21. “When most couples find themselves in a conflict (whether it gets played out as a short spat, an all-out screaming match, or stony silence), they each gird themselves to win the fight. They become so focused on how hurt they feel, on proving that they’re right and their spouse is wrong, or on keeping up a cold shoulder, that the lines of communication may be overcome by static or shut down altogether.” – John M. Gottman
