This post contains some of the best love bombing quotes.
What Is Love Bombing?
Love bombing happens when someone showers you with loving words, actions, and behavior as a manipulation technique.
Common signs of love bombing include:
- They seem like an intense communicator (e.g., overwhelming you with texts, calls, DMs, and likes on social media).
- They make you feel anxious when you spend time with others, demanding that you stay home, constantly checking in, or leaving you feeling so guilty that you’re having fun without them.
- They shower you with lavish gifts or romantic gestures, creating a sense of obligation to bond and lower your inhibitions quickly.
- They shower you with excessive praise and grandiose, overly indulgent compliments like, “You’re everything I’ve ever wanted!”
- They seem excessively needy to the point of smothering you and crossing your boundaries and become withdrawn, angry, and even violent when not given what they want (e.g., they “demand” spending loads of time together, they “demand” sex when you’re not ready yet, etc.).
- Your relationship feels like it’s on fast forward (e.g., although you’re newly dating, you’ve moved in together, are engaged, talking about kids, they introduced you to important people, say “I love you” very fast, etc.).
- They seem like they’re molding themselves to be who they think you want (i.e., always agreeing with everything you say, claiming to share same interests, etc.).
Related: Am I Being Love Bombed Quiz
Love Bombing Quotes
1. “Love is intermittent reinforcement with spouses and children alike. The child is love-bombed when the narcissist feels the child reflects their false self. The moment the child fails to do so, the narcissistic parent blithely discards them.” ― M. Wakefield
2. “A trauma bond forms when you’re involved in a rollercoaster relationship like that which is typical of one with a toxic man. In such a tumultuous relationship, the target is barraged with a mix of insults and love bombs. Your body responds by producing high levels of cortisol when you’re being insulted, and when the love bomb hits, your body produces a shot of dopamine as a kind of reward for your accommodating behavior. When this happens repetitively, it’s like forming a bad habit. It’s the same kind of thing your body goes through when you’re addicted to a drug, and, just like an addiction, it can be difficult to quit the habit.” – Elena Miro
3. “Abusers are notorious for rushing the first stage of intimacy, something that’s often described by survivors as a kind of ‘love-bombing’. This phase is electric and full of promise. Survivors commonly recall being swept off their feet by a man more passionately interested in them than anyone had ever been before.”
― Jess Hill
4. “Any confidence you felt during the previous days or weeks of “love-bombing” is gone instantaneously as if you’d never felt a thing. In fact, you regret every second of that cocky confidence even though, in your heart, you know full-well he would have ditched you anyway.” – Zari Ballard
5. “Finally, a narcissist will hoover once the relationship has ended, where they will use it similar to love bombing to suck you back in.” – Rita Louise PhD
6. “Future faking is how the lovebombing narcissist sucks you in. They trick you into believing that you are meant to be together, that you are soulmates. They will begin to layout your future together from this happily ever after position. It is all rainbows and unicorns as you learn about the beautiful life you and the narcissist will have.” – Rita Louise PhD
7. “Have you ever heard the phrase that states if something is too good to be true, it most likely is? In this case, you are being love-bombed by a narcissist. They are not presenting their authentic self to you. They have carefully crafted a persona designed to “hook” you.” – Edward Brandon
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8. “How do you know if they are really into you or if they are only love bombing and future faking you? How can you know if the bond you feel forming is real or if it is just part of their grandiose scheme? You don’t.” – Rita Louise PhD
9. “If you hold on to hurt and anger with a narcissist, the children will have no normal parent. The narcissistic parent will use them as puppets, lovebomb, and abandon them. You are their only hope.” — Tracy Malone
10. “It is easy to find yourself in a romantic relationship with a narcissist. The love-bombing is hard to ignore. They will make you feel like you are the most important person in the world to them and you will be showered with loving gestures such as poems, love letters, gifts, or just merely the fact that they always have time for you.” – Edward Brandon
11. “Love bombing and future faking are used early on in a relationship. The narcissist can reintroduce them when they experience relationship discord.” – Rita Louise PhD
12. “Love bombing is an attempt to influence a person by demonstrations of attention and affection. It can often be used with negative intentions.” – Louisa Cox
13. “Love bombing is done to keep your attention focused on them. It tends to move a relationship forward very quickly while beginning the process of disconnecting you from your friends, family, or other support systems.” – Rita Louise PhD
14. “Love smothering – This tactic is how they reeled in the victim in the first place. They place the person on a pedestal and shower them with adoration and compliments. This is also sometimes referred to as love-bombing. Historically it has been referred to in abusive relationship cycles as the “honeymoon phase”. This mimics a genuine desire to atone for wrongdoings.” – Edward Brandon
15. “Most narcissists will lovebomb at the beginning of a relationship. You may feel swept off your feet and like the luckiest person in the world during the beginning stages of your relationship. The shock and sadness that comes with the realization that this isn’t a true reflection of that person can be earth shattering.” – Louisa Cox
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16. “One of two things will happen if you do: they will love bomb you to try to keep you from leaving, or their behavior will become even more aggressive and potentially dangerous.” – Elena Miro
17. “Right now you are bright and shiny because they are love-bombing you and because you haven’t spent any real time with them, but make no mistake. You will fall from grace. The question is not if it will happen, but when.” – Edward Brandon
18. “The consistent and abusive conduct displayed by narcissists comes complete with its own vocabulary. Words often associated with these individuals include false self, love bombing, future faking, gaslighting, projection, cognitive dissonance, devaluation, smear campaigns, flying monkeys, and hoovering. These behaviors can appear in any of their relationships but are even more apparent in a narcissist’s most intimate ones.” – Rita Louise PhD
19. “The goal of a narcissist is to get you hooked so that you will enter into a romantic relationship with them. They leadoff their courtship endeavors with love bombing and future faking. These techniques appear during the beginning or idealization stage of relationships. If you are not sure when this is, this is when you first meet, and they open their mouths.” – Rita Louise PhD
20. “The narcissist also knows exactly how much abuse their victim can take and when they have to use the love-bombing tactics again. This creates a feeling like the connection between them is more profound than the ones they have had with other people in the past because the two of them have “been through so much.”” – Edward Brandon
21. “The relationship starts with the love bombing and false futures but then changes and you begin to see their other self, their true self. If you are not up on the complex behaviors of the narcissist, you are left confused, questioning if the person you cared about had any feelings for you at all.” – Rita Louise PhD
22. “There is a strong correlation between narcissism and hypersexuality. This is more than just being flirty. Covert narcissists use this in the love-bombing stage of the relationship. They bombard the person with sex and this dazzles them. It makes them feel like there is a deep love connection. Do not make this mistake. For a narcissist, sex has nothing to do with love. It is yet another tool they use to play mind games with people.” – Edward Brandon
23. “When a narcissist meets a new, potential love interest, the first tool in their bag of tricks is something referred to as “love bombing.” Love bombing is a form of mind control. The narcissist will bombard you with excessive communications, be they frequent and extended phone calls, endless texting, emails, or a strong desire to meet often in person, all in an effort to monopolize your time.” – Rita Louise PhD
24. “When the latter happens, it means that the N, during a moment that serves him (hearing an indifferent tone in your voice, for example), recognizes the possibility (no matter how slight) that setting you up for a fall via “love-bombing” might not work according to plan.” – Zari Ballard
25. “Narcissists are notorious for love bombing, which means that they pour a huge amount of love out on you to get you to do what they want you to do.” – Tyron Braden