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Top 50 The Language Of Letting Go Quotes

The Language Of Letting Go Quotes (2)-min

This post contains some of the best the language of letting go quotes by Melody Beattie.

The Language of Letting Go Quotes

1. “Today, I will remember that there is a powerful force motivated by writing down goals. I will do that now, for the year to come, and regularly as needed. I will do it not to control but to do my part in living my life.”- Melody Beattie

2. “Today, I will trust that I will learn, grow, and set the limits I need in my life at my own pace. This timing need only be right for me.”- Melody Beattie

3. “Today, I will affirm that I am a gift to myself and the Universe. I will remember that nurturing self-care delivers that gift in its highest form.”- Melody Beattie

4. “Today, I will separate myself from family members. I am a separate human being, even though I belong to a unit called a family. I have a right to my own issues and growth; my family members have a right to their issues and a right to choose where and when they will deal with these issues. I can learn to detach in love from my family members and their issues. I am willing to work through all necessary feelings in order to accomplish this.”- Melody Beattie

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5. “Today, I will participate in my relationships to the best of my ability. I will make myself available for closeness and sharing with people I trust. I will ask for what I need and give what feels right.”- Melody Beattie

6. “Today, I will surrender to my feelings, even the emotionally painful ones. Instead of acting in haste, or attempting to punish someone, I will be vulnerable enough to feel my feelings.”- Melody Beattie

7. “Today, I will not strike out at those who cause me pain. I will feel my emotions and take responsibility for them. I will accept hurt feelings as part of being in relationships. I am willing to surrender to the pain as well as the joy in life.”- Melody Beattie

8. “Today, I will pay attention to my actual responsibilities to myself. I will let others do the same. If I am in doubt about what my actual responsibilities are, I will take an inventory.”- Melody Beattie

9. “Today, I will participate in life to the best of my ability. Regardless of the outcome, that makes me a winner.”- Melody Beattie

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10. “Today, I will let go of my big and little guilty feelings. Light and love are on my side.”- Melody Beattie

11. “Today, I will be gentle with myself, understanding that sometimes to reach the middle ground of balance, I need to explore the peaks and valleys. Sometimes, the only way I can extricate myself from a valley is to jump high enough to land on a peak, and then slowly ease myself down.”- Melody Beattie

12. “Today, I will remind myself that it is my right to feel as good as I can. I can have many moments of feeling good; I can find a balanced place of feeling content, peaceful, and good.”- Melody Beattie

13. “Today, I will let myself be angry, if I need to. I can feel and release my emotions, including anger, constructively. I will be grateful for my anger and the things it is trying to show me. I can feel and accept all my emotions without shame, and I can take responsibility for my actions.”- Melody Beattie

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14. “Today, I will be grateful. I will start the process of turning today’s pain into tomorrow’s joy.”- Melody Beattie

15. “Today, I will take responsibility for myself and show it to others by not allowing myself to be victimized. I cannot control outcomes, but I can control my attitude toward being victimized. I am not a victim; I do not deserve to be victimized.”- Melody Beattie

16. “Today, I will pay attention to what I want and need. I will not discount myself.”- Melody Beattie

17. “Today, I will begin the process of letting go of all self-defeating feelings and beliefs connected to past relationships. I will clear my slate so I am free to love and be loved.”- Melody Beattie

18. “Today, I will be aware of the hooks that snag me into the caretaking acts that leave me feeling victimized. I will ignore the hints, looks, and words that hook me, and wait for the directness and honesty I, and others, deserve.”- Melody Beattie

19. “Today, I will strive for the balance between being too needy and not allowing myself to need people. I will let myself receive the love that is there for me.”- Melody Beattie

20. “Today, I will watch for signs that I have fallen into shame’s trap. If I get hooked into shame, I will get myself out by accepting myself and affirming that it’s okay to be who I am.”- Melody Beattie

21. “Today, I will remember that I can take care of myself. I have choices, and I can exercise the options I choose without guilt.”- Melody Beattie

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22. “Today, I will move forward with my life, despite what others are doing or not doing. I will know it is my right to cross the bridge to a better life, even if I must leave others behind to do that. I will not feel guilty, I will not feel ashamed. I know that where I am now is a better place and where I’m meant to be.”- Melody Beattie

The Language Of Letting Go Quotes (2)-min

23. “I can let go of things and people and my need to control today. I can deal with my feelings. I can get peaceful. I can get calm. I can get back on track and find the true key to happiness—myself. I will remember that a gray day is just that—one gray day.”- Melody Beattie

24. “Today, I will take actions that appear appropriate. I will let go of the rest. I will strive for the balance between self-responsibility, responsibility to others, and letting go.”- Melody Beattie

25. “Today, I will watch myself and listen to myself as I go through my day. I will not judge myself for what I’m feeling; I will accept myself.”- Melody Beattie

26. “Today, I will love and encourage myself. I will tell myself that what I’m doing is good enough, and I’ll let myself enjoy that feeling.”- Melody Beattie

27. “Today, I will concentrate on making myself feel safe and confident. I will let myself have my awarenesses on my own time schedule.”- Melody Beattie

28. “I will feel and release any angry feelings I have today. I can do that appropriately and safely.”- Melody Beattie

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29. “Today, I will consider my feelings at work as important as my feelings at home or anywhere else. I will find an appropriate way to deal with them.”- Melody Beattie

30. “Today, I will be who I am. If I’m not yet certain who I am, I will affirm that I have a right to that exciting discovery.”- Melody Beattie

31. “Today, I will be open to understanding what it means to own my power. I will accept powerlessness where I have no power; I will also accept the power that is mine to receive.”- Melody Beattie

32. “Today, I will set the limits I need to set. I will let go of my need to take care of other people’s feelings and instead take care of my own. I will give myself permission to take care of myself, knowing it’s the best thing I can do for myself and others.”- Melody Beattie

33. “Today, I will wait if the way is not clear. I will trust that out of the chaos will come clarity.”- Melody Beattie

34. “Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.”- Melody Beattie

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35. “Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I will work at believing in myself and others—and our mutual abilities to be competent at dealing with feelings, solving problems, and taking responsibility for ourselves.”- Melody Beattie

36. “Today, I will concentrate on making myself feel safe and comfortable.”- Melody Beattie

37. “Today, I will refuse to accept any invitations to jump in the middle of others’ affairs, issues, and relationships. I will trust others to work out their own affairs, including the ideas and feelings they want to communicate to each other.”- Melody Beattie

38. “Today, I will disregard any flack I receive for changing my behaviors or making other efforts to be myself.”- Melody Beattie

39. “Today, I will know that I don’t have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.”- Melody Beattie

40. “Today, I will practice accepting myself and my present circumstances. I will begin to watch and trust the magic that acceptance can bring into my life and recovery.”- Melody Beattie

41. “Today, I will be open to negotiating conflicts I have with people. I will strive for balance without being too submissive or too demanding. I will strive for appropriate flexibility in my problem-solving efforts.”- Melody Beattie

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42. “Today, I will apply the concept of detachment, to the best of my ability, in my relationships. If I can’t let go completely, I’ll try to “hang on loose.”- Melody Beattie

43. “Today, I will let myself enjoy life as I go through my day.”- Melody Beattie

44. “Today, I will practice tolerance, acceptance, and love of others as they are, and myself as I am. I will strive for that balance between expecting too much and expecting too little from others and myself.”- Melody Beattie

45. “Today, I will let things happen without worrying about the significance of each event. I will trust that this will bring about my growth faster than running around with a microscope. I will trust my lessons to reveal themselves in their own time.”- Melody Beattie

46. “Today, I will understand that I hold the key to my freedom. I will stop participating in my oppression and victimization. I will take responsibility for myself, and let others do as they may.”- Melody Beattie

47. “Today, I will open myself to the love that is here for me. I will let myself receive love that is safe, knowing I can take care of myself with people. I will be grateful to all the people from my past who have assisted me in my process of opening up to love. I claim, accept, and am grateful for the love that is coming to me.”- Melody Beattie

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48. “Today, I will search for my own truth, and I will allow others to do the same. I will place value on my vision and the vision of others. We are each on the journey, making our own discoveries—the ones that are right for us today.”- Melody Beattie

49. “Today, I will do one activity or behavior that I know will create a good feeling for me. If I’m uncertain about what I like, I will experiment with one behavior today.”- Melody Beattie

50. “Today, I will let myself enjoy what is good. I don’t have to wreck my good day or good feeling; I don’t have to let others spoil it either.”- Melody Beattie

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  • Portions of this article were adapted from the book The Language of Letting Go, © 1990 by Melody Beattie. All rights reserved.

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Hadiah is a counselor who is passionate about supporting individuals on their journey towards mental well-being. Hadiah not only writes insightful articles on various mental health topics but also creates engaging and practical mental health worksheets.

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