The following are some of the best books validation to help you improve your relationships.
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Books On Validation
1. Toxic Positivity
By Whitney Goodman
In this refreshingly honest guide, sought-after therapist Whitney Goodman shares the latest research along with everyday examples and client stories that reveal how damaging toxic positivity is to ourselves and our relationships, and presents simple ways to experience and work through difficult emotions. The result is more authenticity, connection, and growth—and ultimately, a path to showing up as you truly are.
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2. You’re Not Listening
By Kate Murphy
In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman).
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3. I Hear You
By Michael S. Sorensen
In this 3-hour, conversational read, you’ll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills—validation.
Whether you’re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life.
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4. How to Listen with Intention
By Patrick King
Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience.
If you want to improve the quality of your relationships, understand conflict resolution, hear people’s deepest desires, and jump into people’s inner circles, this is the book for you. You are about to learn the most valuable interpersonal skill of all, even more important than witty banter and charisma.
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5. Genuine Validation
By Corrine R. Stoewsand Ph.D.
Genuine Validation will guide you step-by-step to develop powerful communication that can deepen your connection with your family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers. You will learn how to cultivate the wisdom to communicate through presence, gestures, facial expressions, and actions. You will be able to find the right words that can soothe and calm a tense situation. You will learn how to have healthier interactions, deeper relationships, and more meaningful communications. This book will guide you through social and emotional intelligence skills that are the foundation for transforming your relationship with others—and with yourself!
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6. The High-Conflict Couple
By Alan E. Fruzzetti
The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you’ll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You’ll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.
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7. How to Listen, Hear, and Validate
By Patrick King
How to Listen, Hear, and Validate is all about our top communication struggle – our tendency to react instead of respond, and forget that our goal is to build bridges rather than walls. You’ll learn what you’ve been doing wrong, and why your efforts at getting closer to people – in deep or light manners – have failed. You’ll learn actionable techniques and frameworks to have the most productive conversations of your life – ones that will walk away with people praising how empathetic you are. Most importantly, you will gain profound insights on how to reprogram yourself into a natural communicator.
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8. THE ART OF EMOTIONAL VALIDATION
By Emily Wright
In this complete guide, Emily Wright, a counselor with over 20 years of professional experience, will help you to master your communication skills and improve your relationships at home and work.
By reading this comprehensive communication book you will:
✓ discover why emotional validation is essential and all the advantages you can get by mastering it
✓ improve all your relationships through the six levels of validation in no time
✓ master the five ways for developing self-validation skills
✓ learn how to incorporate validation into everyday parenting
✓ understand the origin of conflicts and manage them both in the family and in the workplace
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9. The Listening Life
By Adam S. McHugh
Adam McHugh places listening at the heart of our spirituality, our relationships and our mission in the world. God himself is the God who hears, and we too can learn to hear what God may be saying through creation, through Scripture, through people. By cultivating a posture of listening, we become more attentive and engaged with those around us. Listening shapes us and equips us to be more attuned to people in pain and more able to minister to those in distress.
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10. The Lost Art of Listening
By Michael P. Nichols, Martha B. Strauss
Thoughtful, witty, and empathic, the book is filled with vivid stories of couples, coworkers, friends, and family working through tough emotions and navigating differences of all kinds.
Learn ways you can:
*Hear what people mean, not just what they say.
*Share a difference of opinion without sounding dismissive.
*Encourage uncommunicative people to open up.
*Make sure both sides get heard in heated discussions.
*Get through to someone who never seems to listen.
*Ask for support without getting unwanted advice.
*Reduce miscommunication in texts and online.
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