Best 10 Books On Emotional Unavailability

1. Emotional Unavailability

By Bryn Collins

In her book, psychologist Bryn Collins opens up the discussion about life with an emotionally unavailable person. Using case studies, quizzes, and jargon-free, easy-to-understand concepts, she profiles the most common types of emotionally unavailable partners, then offers the skills you need to change these painful associations.

Based on her extensive clinical experience, she offers ways to recognize “toxic types” before you get too deeply involved, and she gives the emotionally unavailable partner techniques that teach how to connect with another person.

2. The Emotionally Unavailable Man

By Patti Henry, M.Ed., L.P.C.

The Emotionally Unavailable Man helps men get their “power,” stop avoiding difficult situations, calm their partner’s anger, learn how to say “No,” set and maintain appropriate boundaries, be more effective at work, increase and enhance the sex in their relationship, and feel personal freedom and happiness.

It helps women determine if their partner is capable of being emotionally available, decide what they can — and cannot — do to help, discover how to lose their anger, exercise mutuality and safety, learn how to recognize and confront their own resistances, restore hope about long-term change, and gain clarity about their future.

3. The Cure for Emotional Unavailability

By Stella Smith

The Cure for Emotional Unavailability will help you:
•Discover the reason why people become emotionally unavailable.
•Recognize the REAL signs of emotional unavailability and separate fact from fiction.
•Understand both the passive and aggressive types of emotional unavailability.
•Learn about the differences in behavior between dating an emotionally unavailable partner and having a long-term relationship with one.
•Become emotionally aware.
•Learn practical ways to practice self-compassion.
•Learn how to deal with defense mechanisms.
•Stop your thoughts from controlling you. Embrace your value and experience healthy relationships.

4. Emotional Intimacy

By Robert Augustus Masters Ph.D.

With Emotional Intimacy, this respected therapist and author invites us to explore:

• How to deepen our emotional literacy and become intimate with all our emotions
• The nature of emotional disconnection and what to do about it
• How to identify our emotions, fully experience them, and skillfully express them
• Illuminating, resolving, and healing old emotional wounds
• Gender differences in emotional intimacy and expression
• Steps for bringing greater emotional intimacy and depth into our relationships
• In-depth guidance for those facing depression, anxiety, and shame
• Why “blowing off steam” may make us feel worse, and the nature of healthy catharsis
• The difference between anger and aggression, shame and guilt, jealousy and envy
• Individual chapters for fully engaging with fear, anger, joy, jealousy, shame, grief, guilt, awe, and the full spectrum of our emotions

5. If We’re Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?

By Holly Parker

In If We’re Together, Why Do I Feel So Alone?, Dr. Parker presents her revelatory insights on topics such as:
 
• How to identify unavailable personality types, such as the Critic, the Sponge, the Iceberg, the Emotional Silencer, and the Defender
• How to create healthy emotional connections and boost physical intimacy
• How to eliminate habits that trigger self-sabotaging behavior

6. Emotional Unavailability & Neediness

By Gabriella Kortsch Ph.D.

Emotional unavailability and neediness do not tend to be deliberate because there is never anything consciously deliberate about the way a defense mechanism arises in childhood.

This book dissects the causes of these defense mechanisms, paving the road – for those who wish to change the inner landscape of their emotional constraints – to live and be able to love more freely.

7. Ghosted and Breadcrumbed

By Dr. Marni Feuerman

Psychotherapist Dr. Marni Feuerman offers profound and insightful advice for women who find themselves in painful and unsatisfying relationships or dating experiences again and again. She offers explanations and solutions for why we attract and accept poor treatment, experience a lack of emotional connection from romantic partners, and often reject the good ones.

8. The Emotionally Available Partner

By Marian Lindner

Learn how to share love with an emotionally available partner and find the fulfilling relationship you’ve been seeking instead! This book is your complete guide to identifying, choosing, and staying present with an emotionally available person. Whether you are in a relationship now or plan to start dating soon, you will reach for this daily guide over and over.

9. Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl

By Natalie Lue NML

Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the definitive guide to understanding the relationship between emotionally unavailable men and the women that love them. From explaining how and why they blow hot and cold, to where that future they promised went to, how you’ve ended up being a booty call, why you’ve been together for a gazillion years but aren’t going anywhere, and more importantly how and why you’re involved with them in the first place, all of the answers are here.

10. He’s Scared, She’s Scared

By Steven Carter, Julia Sokol

Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience,  He’s Scared, She’s Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.